| self-awareness |
| People tend to deal with emotions in one of three ways:
Mindful - are aware of what they feel and in control
Engulfed - they feel swamped by emotions and powerless to change them
Accepting - aware of their emotions but not inclined to change them |
| somatic markers |
| Intuitive aids to decision making, the brain's emotional alarm system. |
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| emotion management |
| Temperment - the ability to withstand personal emotional storms |
| anger |
| Anger management strategies:
Reframing - attempt to interpret situation differently
Cooling off - use distractions, and wait for rage hormone levels to drop
No catharsis - seductive as endorphin released, but sustains rage level |
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| worry |
| Worry is thinking without any constructive reflection, getting stuck in a loop of low-grade melodrama without moving towards a positive solution.
Best managed by self-awareness, spot worries before a loop occurs, then use healthy skepticism to reduce their significance. |
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| melancholy |
| A mental self-defence mechanism, intended to provide a quietened state of mind to facilitate remedial planning. When self-reinforcing can lead to despondency, hence best tackled by distracting activities. |
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| motivation and control |
| Also known as willpower - the ability to resist impulses and motivate oneself |
| optimism |
| Significant factor is how people react to failure: optimists attribute failures to forces beyond their control, pessimists blame themselves.
The ability to achieve is proportional to your ability to withstand defeats. |
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| flow |
| The Zone! The brain's most efficient operating mode, complex actions seem effortless and enjoyable. Also most efficient state for learning.
Flow state entered by focused concentration at a suitable level of challenge without anxiety. |
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| empathy |
| The ability to detect, interpret and imagine what others are feeling |
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| social arts |
| The ability to express your own feelings.
Appropriate transmission of emotions is crucial to coordination and influence.
Manifested as ability to lead, mediate, empathise and analyse. |
| display rules |
| The cultural rules of behaviour: minimise, exaggerate and substitute |
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| integration |
| How people approach a new social grouping: observe, imitate, join. |
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